forgiveness – deacon rudy's notes

September 12, 2020September 12, 2020

24th Sunday in Ordinary Time

Image with words I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times. Jesus

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First Reading: Sirach 27:30 – 28:7
Responsorial: Psalm 103:1-4, 9-12
Second Reading: Romans 14:7-9
Gospel: Matthew 18:21-35

https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/091320.cfm
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Trusting in Divine Providence, Holy Mother Church curated the readings we hear this weekend, and these readings couldn’t come at a better time. I realize the elections are far from over, but it isn’t too early to start talking about peace and reconciliation. It’s not healthy to hold on to grudges – not for ourselves as individuals and not for our democracy. Writing two thousand years ago, Sirach tries to tell us about the healing power of forgiveness. Why indeed would we hold on to those things that harm us? (Sirach, 27:30).

Well, that’s not how we want to be treated, is it? No, of course not! Look at the story Jesus tells us in today’s Gospel about the servant who begged for mercy. He was in over his head and there was no way out of his debts. All he could do was beg for mercy, and his master, who was moved with compassion, granted him mercy (Matthew 18:27). But when it comes to other people – watch out!

That’s the next part of the Gospel story. The same servant who was shown mercy demanded repayment of a much smaller debt. What happened next? “Then his lord summoned him and said to him, “Wicked servant: I let you off all that debt, since you begged me. Should you not also have had mercy on your fellow servant, as I had mercy on you?” (Matthew 18:32-33).

And then what happened? The servant who would not forgive – now called wicked – was handed over to be tortured, and Jesus warned the same would be true with his Father (Matthew 18:34-35).

In Matthew 7:12, Jesus tells us to do unto others. What if the torture the Father intends for us is that we are treated the way we have treated other people – including the way we have held grudges or gossiped or spread rumors? Whatever the punishment, clearly the point from the Scriptures is that holding on to anger, the pain, the hurt will harm us. Even modern science and psychology warn us that our physical and mental health can be negatively affected if we hold on instead of forgiving.

Why do we want to hold on to the things that harm us?

Perhaps it’s because our pride takes over? We’re right. We know we’re right. We can prove we’re right. It’s irrational that the other person won’t admit it, but we sure aren’t going to give in because we are right. As the authors of Facing Forgiveness suggest, “Perhaps the lack of self-forgiveness is a repetition of the original sin of pride in the Garde of Eden” (44).
“But, Deacon, I’m right!”

Did you know that J.R.R. Tolkien’s family was torn apart by the decision to make The Lord of the Rings into a movie? Christopher Tolkien, the son of J.R.R. Tolkien, was thoroughly against the Peter Jackson’s production. His son, Simon, supported the production. The rift between them was so great that Christopher disowned his son Simon and his family, turning his back on his grandson! (Facing Forgiveness, 65). Can you imagine sticking to your point of view so vehemently that you lose time with your own family? Thankfully before Christopher’s death this past January, he and Simon were reconciled, but at what cost? Time that they’ll never get back.

Even if we’re right and the other person is unreasonable, is it worth damaging our relationships with our family and friends or adding to our stress level just to prove a point?

Is it pride that makes us stubbornly hold on? Perhaps that’s what St. Paul means when he says that we need to die to ourselves? (Romans 14:7). At some point, whether we’re right or wrong, we need to let go – forgive and move on. After the elections are over, may we all remember that Jesus calls us to forgive and be reconciled.

Homework! Strengthened by the Word of God and the Eucharist to overcome our past hurts, I encourage you to reflect on the following three questions this week:

Have I forgiven my self for anything I’ve done contrary to my values?
Are there members of my own family from whom I am alienated? Am I willing to take the first step toward forgiveness?
Who are my models of forgiveness?

I think doing our homework will help us become healed so that we can go out into the world as disciples of Christ Jesus. Do you got it? Do you get it? Good! Now go make disciples! May Almighty God bless you, Father, Son and Holy Spirit! +Amen!

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References:
1. Hahn, Scott W. and Curtis Mitch. Romans. Catholic Commentary on Sacred Scripture. Grand Rapids, Michigan: Baker Academics, 2017. Kindle.
2. Mitch, Curtis and Edward Sri. The Gospel of Matthew. Catholic Commentary on Sacred Scripture. Grand Rapids, Michigan: Baker Academic, 2010. Kindle.
3. Sofield, S.T., Loughlan, Carroll Juliano, S.H.C.J., and Bishop Gregory m. Aymond. Facing Forgiveness. Notre Dame, Indiana: Ave Maria Press, 2007.
4. The Bible: A Study Bible freshly translated by Nicholas King. Buxhall, Suffolk UK: Kevin Mayhew, 2013.

Catechism References http://www.scborromeo.org/ccc.htm:
1. God of mercy and piety, 210-11
2. Jesus identifies his compassion to sinners with God’s, 588-589
3. Christ our judge, 678-79
4. Las judgment, 1038-41
5. Forgiveness, 2843, 2845

Twenty-fourth Sunday in Ordinary Time https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/091320.cfm
Lectionary: 130

Reading 1
Sirach 27:30—28:7
Wrath and anger are hateful things,
yet the sinner hugs them tight.
The vengeful will suffer the LORD’s vengeance,
for he remembers their sins in detail.
Forgive your neighbor’s injustice;
then when you pray, your own sins will be forgiven.
Could anyone nourish anger against another
and expect healing from the LORD?
Could anyone refuse mercy to another like himself,
can he seek pardon for his own sins?
If one who is but flesh cherishes wrath,
who will forgive his sins?
Remember your last days, set enmity aside;
remember death and decay, and cease from sin!
Think of the commandments, hate not your neighbor;
remember the Most High’s covenant, and overlook faults.

Responsorial
Psalm 103:1-2, 3-4, 9-10, 11-12
R. (8) The Lord is kind and merciful, slow to anger, and rich in compassion.
Bless the LORD, O my soul;
and all my being, bless his holy name.
Bless the LORD, O my soul,
and forget not all his benefits.
R. The Lord is kind and merciful, slow to anger, and rich in compassion.
He pardons all your iniquities,
heals all your ills.
He redeems your life from destruction,
crowns you with kindness and compassion.
R. The Lord is kind and merciful, slow to anger, and rich in compassion.
He will not always chide,
nor does he keep his wrath forever.
Not according to our sins does he deal with us,
nor does he requite us according to our crimes.
R. The Lord is kind and merciful, slow to anger, and rich in compassion.
For as the heavens are high above the earth,
so surpassing is his kindness toward those who fear him.
As far as the east is from the west,
so far has he put our transgressions from us.
R. The Lord is kind and merciful, slow to anger, and rich in compassion.

Reading 2
Romans 14:7-9
Brothers and sisters:
None of us lives for oneself, and no one dies for oneself.
For if we live, we live for the Lord,
and if we die, we die for the Lord;
so then, whether we live or die, we are the Lord’s.
For this is why Christ died and came to life,
that he might be Lord of both the dead and the living.

Alleluia
John 13:34
R. Alleluia, alleluia.
I give you a new commandment, says the Lord:
love one another as I have loved you.
R. Alleluia, alleluia.

Gospel
Matthew 18:21-35
Peter approached Jesus and asked him,
“Lord, if my brother sins against me,
how often must I forgive?
As many as seven times?”
Jesus answered, “I say to you, not seven times but seventy-seven times.
That is why the kingdom of heaven may be likened to a king
who decided to settle accounts with his servants.
When he began the accounting,
a debtor was brought before him who owed him a huge amount.
Since he had no way of paying it back,
his master ordered him to be sold,
along with his wife, his children, and all his property,
in payment of the debt.
At that, the servant fell down, did him homage, and said,
‘Be patient with me, and I will pay you back in full.’
Moved with compassion the master of that servant
let him go and forgave him the loan.
When that servant had left, he found one of his fellow servants
who owed him a much smaller amount.
He seized him and started to choke him, demanding,
‘Pay back what you owe.’
Falling to his knees, his fellow servant begged him,
‘Be patient with me, and I will pay you back.’
But he refused.
Instead, he had the fellow servant put in prison
until he paid back the debt.
Now when his fellow servants saw what had happened,
they were deeply disturbed, and went to their master
and reported the whole affair.
His master summoned him and said to him, ‘You wicked servant!
I forgave you your entire debt because you begged me to.
Should you not have had pity on your fellow servant,
as I had pity on you?’
Then in anger his master handed him over to the torturers
until he should pay back the whole debt.
So will my heavenly Father do to you,
unless each of you forgives your brother from your heart.”

November 3, 2019November 1, 2019

Zacchaeus

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Thirty-first Sunday in Ordinary Time Mass Readings

First Reading: Wisdom 11:22-12:2
Responsorial: Psalm 145:1-2, 8-11, 13-14
Second Reading: 2 Thessalonians 1:11-2:2
Gospel: Luke 19:1-10

http://www.usccb.org/bible/readings/110319.cfm

In today’s Gospel we hear the story of Zacchaeus, the short-statured tax collector who climbed a tree as Jesus was passing through Jericho. Can you imagine what it would have looked like to see Zacchaeus in a tree straining to catch a glimpse of Jesus? Can you imagine the smile that crossed Jesus’ face when he looked up and saw Zacchaeus? Now picture the look on Zacchaeus’ face when Jesus invited himself to dinner at his house. I suspect he was beside himself with joy!

My brothers and sisters, how many of us, I wonder, have done things in our lives that we are not particularly proud of? You see, Zacchaeus the tax collector who not only was a collaborator with the Roman occupiers, but who earned his income by adding a surcharge to the taxes he collected for Rome. Some might say the tax collectors extorted the people. And yet, Zacchaeus was a seeker. Something was missing in his life and he hungered for more. So, he came out hoping to see Jesus.

Jesus chose him for company at dinner. To enter a home, as Jesus did, was huge. When enemies would share a meal for example, it would have been an act of peace. So, Jesus eating with Zacchaeus was essentially an act of reconciliation.

Perhaps Jesus could see that Zacchaeus, like the prodigal son, was trying to find a way to return home to the Father. His gesture of climbing the tree to see Jesus was like the prodigal son walking home. Like the father who runs to greet his son, Jesus reaches out to meet Zacchaeus, figuratively speaking.

The Eucharist comes out of this eastern tradition where enemies eating together are reconciled and where we by our participation can be reconciled. The Eucharist can help us to do what we might not be able to do, or willing to do on our own – like seek forgiveness and healing.

But that’s not the end of the story. No! Moved with great joy by this act of reconciliation, Zacchaeus promises to amend his life and to donate a significant portion of his wealth to the poor and to repay those he’s extorted with interest. Wow! Such a sacrifice couldn’t be easy for him to actually carry out. Can you imagine? What would it do to your home to give away half of your possessions and to repay anyone you’ve taken money from four times over?

That, I think, is precisely the point. We, especially those of us in the west who want for little, are challenged to down-size, de-clutter and simplify our lives as best we can. But here’s the catch. It’s not really our things, our possessions or our wealth that is the problem. It’s our attachment to those things that’s the real problem. We might imagine we can’t do without them, so divestiture never enters our minds. Much to the chagrin of our family and friends, we might hoard the oddest things, like aluminum foil, or plastic bags, or whatever. At some level this means that we place more confidence in those things than in anyone else let alone Jesus Christ. As we find in Psalm 33:17, “A vain hope for safety is the horse; despite its power it cannot save.”

No thing – nothing can save us. Our salvation comes from Christ alone! I think Zacchaeus understood that.

Homework! Nourished by the Word of God proclaimed, and, in the Eucharist, I encourage you to reflect on the following:

As we approach Advent, now is a good time to clean out our closets and get rid of our excess – things we really don’t need. So, as you’re pulling out Christmas decorations, make a plan to get rid of the things you really don’t need.
Look through the places in your heart where you might store hurts or pains that you’re clinging to for whatever reason. As we approach Advent, now is a good time to allow the healing power of Holy Spirit to wash away the muck in our hearts and be reconciled to Jesus Christ.

Do you got it? Do you get it? Good! Now go and make disciples! May Almighty God bless you, Father, Son and Holy Spirit! +Amen!

Church teaching:

Catechism of the Catholic Church: repairing injustice, 549, 2412; reintegrating forgiven sinners, 1443.

October 6, 2019October 4, 2019

Lessons on the Road to Jerusalem

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Twenty-seventh Sunday in Ordinary Time Mass Readings

First Reading: Habakkuk 1:2-3; 2:2-4
Responsorial: Psalm 95:1-2, 6-9
Second Reading: 2 Timothy 1:6-8, 13-14
Gospel: Luke 17:5-10

http://usccb.org/bible/readings/100619.cfm

Before we get started, I’d like to ask how your homework went last week? Did you put yourself in the role of the rich man and write a letter to warn your family and friends? If you did, how did it go? Was it difficult? If you didn’t, why not? I’d love to read your comments. Head over to www.deaconrudysnotes.org and click on the title “The Sin of Pride.” At the bottom of the window, you will check “like” if you like the reflection, and you will also find a comment box. The only way I get better is with your honest feedback. But either way, I do encourage you to complete last week’s homework because it can be very helpful in our spiritual journeys.

In today’s Gospel, Jesus is continuing on his journey to Jerusalem. All of these parables that we’ve been hearing over the last several weeks have been given while on the road to Jerusalem. So, after addressing the Pharisees in Luke 16:14-31, he goes back to instructing his disciples like we heard in the beginning of this series, Luke 16:1. When we look at these parables as a whole, there are at least four themes that Jesus is teaching: scandal, forgiveness, faith and service.

First, the word “scandal” refers to a moral stumbling block that leads others to do evil – or to sin (see Catechism 2284). A couple of examples of this are those who act like the dishonest steward we heard about a few weeks ago or the rich man who ignored Lazarus. He emphasizes that leading little ones astray, meaning those weak in faith, see Rom 14:1; or 1 Cor 8:9. Jesus says woe against these people. He says it is better that such a person have a millstone placed around their neck and they be cast into the sea than spending an eternity in torment, Luke 17:2. Therefore beware! He instructs his disciples that they should not be like the Pharisees who cause others to sin.

Next, he talks about forgiveness. We see the need for this in the relationship between the angry older brother and the prodigal son. The older brother in many ways reflects the attitude of the Pharisees who despised tax collectors and sinners, see Luke 18:9. We need to be willing to forgive those who hurt us, but this is much easier said than done, right?

Jesus teaches a different approach. If someone sins, we shouldn’t just ignore it or sweep it under the carpet. Scripture calls for a fraternal rebuke, see Lev 19:17; 2 Tim 3:16; 4:2. But if he repents, if he is willing to say, “I am sorry,” like the prodigal son was willing to, see Luke 15:18, 21; 15:7, 10, then we need to forgive. How many times should we forgive? As many as seven times in one day, see Prov 24:16; Luke 17:4.

For us as Christians and disciples of Christ Jesus, underlining our call to forgive is the petition from the Lord’s Prayer: …forgive us our sins, for we ourselves forgive everyone in debt to us…, Luke 11:4. In other words, if we are willing to ask God to forgive us our sins, then we should be ready to forgive others.

Now is this easy? No, and that’s why in today’s Gospel, the disciples closest to Jesus, those who will become the apostles, ask Jesus to increase their faith, Luke 17:5, and this is the third lesson coming from these parables. They don’t think they can measure up to the challenge of forgiveness, isn’t that interesting? Those closest to Jesus didn’t think they could forgive so easily. Sometimes we fall into the trap of feeling unworthy, but passages like this from today’s Gospel remind us that we are not alone in feeling this way. Jesus responds by saying that even faith as small as a mustard seed, one of the tiniest seeds around, has great power. He says this little faith can tell a Mulberry tree, which has an extensive root system, to be uprooted and walk into the sea, Luke 17:6. Jesus tells us that faith, no matter how small, can do the impossible. I think that’s a message we often overlook.

Finally, Jesus talks about service. We hear this really unfortunate story about the ungrateful master who has no sympathy for the work his servant has done in the fields. He tells him to go and make something for him to eat. The master expects the servant to just do his job – the job he was hired to do – no matter how tired he is. The servant must carry on. As disciples, we too must carry on. We must do what God asks us to do.

That’s the lesson Jesus is giving us. This is especially applicable in the missionary work that the apostles will carry out. We see many examples of that, like 2 Corinthians 4:5; plowing to spread the Kingdom of God, Luke 9:62, 1 Corinthians 9:10; tending the sheep as pastors, Acts 20:28, 1 Corinthians 9:7; and giving them food to eat and drink in the Eucharist, 1 Corinthians 11:25-26. And of course, all these parables leading up to this lesson on service are happening as Jesus is walking to Jerusalem to face his death – and he knows it. The good and faithful servant must fulfil his purposes – he must do what he was created to do.

Homework! Having been nourished by the Word of God proclaimed and, in the Eucharist, I encourage you to reflect on the following one question this week, in addition to finishing your homework from last week if you are not done:

As a good and faithful servant, what is God asking you to do with your life? Are you living your purpose?

I think our homework will help develop us to become better disciples of Christ Jesus.

One final request: please join in me in praying for the upcoming Pan-Amazon Synod which begins today, Sunday. Good and gracious God, we thank you for the many blessings you have given us. Please forgive us for those times when we have ignored our role as steward of creation and taken this world for granted. We ask that you send your wisdom to all our elected officials that they may step up the challenges of safeguarding creation for today and for generations to come. We also ask for your blessing upon all those who will participate in the upcoming Pan-Amazon Synod. May all participants be guided by your Truth, and may all of us be guided by your Spirit of unity, fraternity and love. We ask all this in the name of Jesus Christ. +Amen!

Well, that’s a wrap! Do you got it? Do you get it? Good! May Almighty God bless you, Father, Son and Holy Spirit! +Amen!

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